The journey from surviving to thriving
I was remembering recently how much my life has changed over the past few years. I was remembering how only 5 years ago I felt so lost. I felt like I had completely disappeared from my own life, like my life wasn't about me at all. I was just going through the motions, settling for a "good enough" life while feeling totally unfulfilled and like a deep part of myself was missing. I certainly wasn't really happy, although I of course had moments of happiness, I hadn't experienced true joy, deep internal joy for A LONG time. I was desperately searching for my purpose, for more meaning, for answers of what was going to "fix" me or make me feel better. And, I was so afraid I would never find it. That I would always be living a "just okay" life, but with that feeling that something was missing, that my life was supposed to be so much bigger, and with a deep aching in my heart.
What I didn't know then, but I learned through this beautiful spiritual/Soul journey I have been on was that that aching in my heart was my Soul calling to me. My highest Soul self was calling to be seen, to be witnessed, wanting to be heard, wanting to be remembered.
She was urging me to come home. To remember my truth. To remember who I really was. Remember my own divine power and intelligence that lives within me.
This beautiful journey back to myself is how I got to experience deep, lasting joy again.
Connecting to Source and my own light brought me meaning.
Remembering that I am NOT a victim to my circumstances, but actually the divine, infinite co-creator of my life, returned me to my power.
Loving myself, remembering my inherent worthiness, and continuing to tune inwards rather then outwards, allowed me to reconnect to my own inner knowing and intuition.
And, what I have come to understand to be true is that our purpose in this life is to embody love. To remember our own divinity, to reconnect to Source and Divine Consciousness that lives within us and all around us, always supporting us and guiding us towards our highest good.
Our purpose is to be the light, to embody love, and to help heal the collective by first healing and loving ourselves.
What is more meaningful and purposeful then that?
Before I embarked on this path, I was basically a walking head. Constantly overthinking, worrying, future tripping, doing what I was told, what I thought I was supposed to do, following all the rules, and I was empty, a shadow self, a sheep.
Through this beautiful journey I've come back into my body. I've opened my heart. I've nurtured a relationship to Self, to my Soul, to Source.
And, when I started to honor me, my desires, my wants, me needs, my happiness, that's when I began to come back to life.
When I I dove even deeper into the mindset work, energy work, deconstructing old programming and conditioning, releasing the stuck emotions and energy from my past, reconnecting to my truth and authenticity, and my own divine nature, that's when I began to thrive!
When I began to listen to and trust my own inner knowing, my intuition, my Soul wisdom, instead of what everyone else told me was right, true, responsible, attractive, the way it "should" be, my life became my own again.
I feel so much gratitude, joy, love, more confidence, more inner trust, strength, power, connection. I feel alive again! And, my life has far surpassed what I thought was ever possible for me!
That is the beauty of this work. That is the beauty of remembrance and coming home to yourself.
If this resonates with you and you are feeling the call to rise up, if you are feeling the call of coming home to yourself, to releasing the fear, self-doubt, and smallness so that you can step into your next level self, your Soul self, and create a life you absolutely love, then I am here for you.
That is why I created Her Life Reclaimed, my signature 1:1 program, to teach what I have done to transform my life. It is an amazing program and I am so thrilled and honor to work with amazing women who are ready and motivated to up-level their life in the most beautiful and impactful way! Just reply to this email for more information on Her Life Reclaimed, if you're interested!
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with so much love and light,
Shaina
It’s about time to kick the 'good girl' to the curb!
As women we have been conditioned from a very young age to be 'good girls'. And, being a “good girl” means you’re meek, quiet, reserved, polite, giving of yourself, you do what you’re told, you’re nice, selfless, and don’t take up too much space.
How dare the good girl be loud and bold.
How dare the good girl claim her desires and dreams with passion and enthusiasm.
How dare the good girl outshine anyone.
How dare the good girl put herself first.
Women, as a collective, have been shamed for far too long for pushing against the confines of the good girl box we have been shoved into for millennium.
And, it’s my mission to lead a revolution of women in taking back their power, reclaiming their lives, and unapologetically stepping into who they truly are with confidence.
It’s time to break out of the box!
So, Let me ask you…
If you weren’t afraid of what other people would think, say, or do what would you do?
How are you pleasing others and playing the role of 'good girl' in your life?
It’s time to let go of the forced confines of the “good girl” identity! It’s time to boldly let go of anyone else’s opinions, or what they might think or say about you and proudly own who you are and what you want from life!
So, if you’re ready here are 3 ways to kick the 'good girl' to the curb and take back your power!
Don’t Dim Your Light For Anyone
We tend to not want to shine too brightly in fear that we might make someone else feel bad. F that! I actually did experience this in my own life when a friend became really uncomfortable with my personal growth and expansion and the fact that I was taking big actions towards my dreams. And, instead of shrinking back down to ease her discomfort, I lovingly held space for her to share her feelings about it. I let her have her feelings without making it my responsibility to make her feel better. I didn’t allow myself to feel shame or guilt because my bigness was making her feel uncomfortable and here’s why. Because I was living big and taking huge leaps to follow my dreams and desires, I helped shine a light on her own complacency and dissatisfaction in her own life, and although that was uncomfortable for her, it also allowed her to see what was possible. It gave her permission and inspiration to make her own big changes, which she did! Had I shrunk down in order for her to not have to confront her own dissatisfaction it would have been a HUGE disservice to both of us.
Own What You Want Loudly and Proudly
This is your one life in this human form! You came here to experience life to the fullest. You came here to live big, feel tremendous joy, and create a beautiful life, so own it! I was talking to a woman today who’s a part of my monthly women’s group and she shared with me that she felt embarrassed in our last group when she spoke passionately about her biggest desire. She felt like it wasn’t okay to be proud or passionate about something. It wasn’t okay to take up space in that way. Women are supposed to live quietly, satisfied with their lot in life, and tending to the needs of others. I call bs on all of that! Own what you want! Be an example to all the other women in the world who have desires, but are too afraid to speak them out loud. Let them see what is possible! You are worthy and deserving of all that you desire and it’s okay to have desires! It’s okay to be passionate about life and what you want. Own it!
No More People Pleasing
It’s time to stop taking care of everyone else’s needs, putting everyone else first, and god forbid we make someone upset with us or think badly about us for not doing what they want. We’ve been so indoctrinated to please, please, please. But, if our cup isn’t full, how can we possibly serve those around us? What it will end up doing is breeding resentment and animosity for the people who seem to take, take, take. But, girl you have to stop giving, giving, giving. Stop giving if it means sacrificing yourself and depleting yourself. And, understand, people pleasing really stems from a place of fear- fear of not being liked, fear of being judged, fear of being rejected. We are hardwired for connection and belonging, but it seems that somewhere along the way we have mistaken that by pleasing others it means we’ll be liked. And, being liked isn’t the goal! Being liked doesn’t create connection and true belonging. Being seen does! And, if you’re a people pleaser you’re not truly being seen.
I would love to hear from you, let me know how the 'good girl' shows up in your life? Tell me what you would do, if you weren't afraid of what other people would think, say, or feel about your deepest desires?
with so much love to you,
Shaina
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